I had a really great meeting with a client yesterday.
We’ve been working together for about two months, and since they had just finished their lunch break, I allowed myself to suggest a dessert:
Vanilla ice cream with cantaloupe melon, topped with high-quality olive oil and a pinch of salt.
They started laughing and said:
“– That’s exactly like your coaching!”
“I don’t really know how to recommend you, but what you do is just like that dessert you described:
An unusual, complex, and sophisticated mix.”
Indeed, at first glance, the combination seems odd – sweet (vanilla ice cream, melon), fatty/bitter (olive oil), and salty.
But when it’s well-balanced, it’s pleasantly surprising, creates a kind of “taste-bud aha moment,” and truly opens up new sensory perspectives for each individual component.
I realize not everyone is ready for this – and that’s perfectly okay.
It requires openness, curiosity, and a willingness to transform something familiar and ordinary into something new, fresh, and exuberant.
It asks you to veer a little from the standards.
I have no idea if someone else has already thought of it – most likely, yes – but for me, it’s a must-have as long as we have fragrant Romanian melons.
Now I’m trying to draw a parallel between this little wonder (which can even serve as a meal on hot days: it doesn’t cause a blood sugar spike, it has fiber, protein, and fats that slow glucose absorption, and the insulin response will be gentler) and my work.
I don’t rely on pre-set questions, SMART goals, or just “active listening.”
I roll up my sleeves and dig deep into the client’s psycho-cognitive and physiological system.
Together, we analyze real mental levers, perhaps even biochemical markers, root causes, triggers, limiting beliefs and convictions that generate imbalances in decisions, actions, behaviors, and the body’s homeostasis.
The brain’s job is to ensure survival, manage energy and resources, and fulfill perception – engaging neurophysiological mechanisms – without caring much about illness or pain.
When you look at yourself through that lens, the result is not just insight.
It’s a process of inner growth, of reclaiming yourself.
It’s a personal transformation with an impact across all areas of your life.
Just like the ice cream experience.
Your senses reorganize – because you’ve helped your brain and mind reorganize their perceptions, cognitive and emotional patterns, and internal strategies.
The vanilla ice cream and yellow melon – the sweet, familiar, perhaps dreamy part the client brings to coaching and craves at any cost. It’s like Huxley’s Soma.
The high-quality olive oil – the bitter, strong, unexpected, challenging part that we often reject or resent, but without which the whole can’t exist.
Once we identify and balance them, we become aware of wholeness, priorities, and meaning – thanks to... the salt.
Just like salt isn’t the main ingredient, but without it, everything tastes bland and lifeless, the same goes for certain qualities (attention, presence, awareness, authenticity) – they give meaning to a relationship, a process, or a transformation.
Salt sets the balance.
Too little, and the food is tasteless. Too much, and it becomes hard to swallow.
Coaching, like salt, requires precise dosing.
It’s not about “more,” but about how much and how it’s needed.
Salt doesn’t change the shape of the food – it changes how we perceive the taste.
The method I use does the same: it doesn’t change who you are – it changes how you perceive reality. And that changes everything.
The salt metaphor also appears in the Bible, doesn’t it?
“You are the salt of the earth.”
That is – we are the ones who bring life to the world around us, we are the spark, we build our Path by knowing our essence and personal value.
So...
My coaching is like vanilla ice cream with fragrant romanian melon, olive oil, and a pinch of salt.
Seemingly a strange combination, but once tasted, it reveals a surprising harmony that was just waiting to be discovered.
It’s not about what it seems.
It’s about what it awakens in you.
Dare. Write to me.
I’ll patiently guide you to uncover your own recipe.
To realize the optimal proportions you already possess for your life and your nervous system – you just haven’t had the courage (or the right context) to look until now.
P.S. Try a spoonful of vanilla ice cream with a drizzle of olive oil and a tiny pinch of salt. Okay?
I’d be grateful if you shared your impression with me!
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